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A Conversation Between Two Fangirls: If We Were Villains by ML Rio

Written by Maša Tome and Hannah French

Two fangirl besties chatting about all things nerdy… Yes, we did something. One thing where we sit down and chat about our favorite things and try to get you to join us in fangirling about them! Focus du jour, a book that we don’t talk about enough – but which should be – If we were bad guys by ML Rio. Read on to see us fangirl about this book and tell you why you absolutely should take it!

A brief recap of If We Were Villains:

Oliver Marks has just served ten years in prison – for a murder he may or may not have committed. On the day of his release, he is greeted by the man who put him in prison. Detective Colborne is retiring, but before he does, he wants to know what really happened ten years ago.

As one of seven young actors who study Shakespeare at an elite art school, Oliver and his friends play the same roles on and off stage: hero, villain, tyrant, temptress, ingenuous, extra. But when the cast changes and the supporting characters usurp the stars, the plays are dangerously overflowing with life and one of them is found dead. The others face their biggest acting challenge yet: convincing themselves and the police that they are blameless.

Describe If we were bad guys in 5 words!

Hannah: Mystery, drama, Shakespeare…
Maša: Murder and friends! It barely covers the complexity of this magnificent masterpiece, but it’s a start!

What do you like most about this book?

H: The characters and the friendships they share. These relationships are so complex and riddled with so much angst, jealousy, competition, pretense and love!
M: I also love the way Rio portrays that these relationships can be so toxic too. On the one hand, these characters share some lovely friendships (and love stories), but they’re so connected to each other that it sometimes overshadows everything they do for a living. It’s also an LGBTQ + book!
H: Another thing I love about this book is the concept of theater and performance! All the characters love Shakespeare and are addicted to the stage. This book really shows what games and words mean to people. It also shows the addictive nature of spotlighting and pretending to be someone else.
M: Yes, it will be a treat for anyone who enjoys Shakespeare, the theater or just dark, atmospheric and twisted stories in general!

Everything you need to know about the main characters!

H&M: We noted their official “titles” but also added our own touch!

Oliver – “The Faithful Companion”; the unconscious
James – “The Heroic Guy”; the noble
Meredith – “La femme fatale”; the heart breaker
Alexandre – “The bad guy”; the troubled teenager
Filippa – “The chameleon”; the only sane one
Richard – “The Tyrant”; the proud idiot
Eurasian Wren – “L’Ingénue”; the extra

Why should you choose If we were bad guys and what themes are covered?

M: You should definitely choose IWWV if you adore the works of Shakespeare or the dark academic genre in general! And even if you are a total beginner in academia, this book will make it easy for you!
H: This book is also about the power of words and at the center of it are all-consuming friendships. It shows how words can consume and how the character and the real person can start to get confused if you’re not careful. IWWV shows that acting can mean adopting a different character and what happens when you start acting off stage as well.
M: IWWV covers a lot of topics and a lot of them are uncomfortable and ugly truths of our world (check the trigger warnings before you start!). It deals with trauma, drug addiction, bullying and death, but it also delves into the themes of morality, good and evil, love.
H: It also touches on themes like what makes someone a bad guy and someone else a “good guy”, a hero if you will. It also asks a very tricky question: “Can you do the wrong thing for the right reasons?” “
M: Yes! One wonders if terrible things can sometimes be justified – and under what circumstances! Basically it’s a masterful story of deception, power and love and we HIGHLY recommend it!

Which makes If we were bad guys special and / or relevant today?

M: If we were bad guys is a character-driven story that departs from the tropes and leaves you guessing! It’s a story of obsession and how far we would go for love, in the meanest way possible! But not just in terms of romantic love – IWWV deals with all kinds of diverse relationships and we’re here for it!

H: This book also points out that pride and greed can influence a person’s actions and that they can ruin friendships. All of these characters want to be the leader and they all want to be the best. This competition and tension gets them all to do things they maybe shouldn’t. IWWV has a very realistic portrayal of what greed can turn someone into. Another plus is that it’s heavy Shakespeare and will make you appreciate his work (I’ve never been the biggest Shakespeare fan but after reading this book I’m in love).

See also

M: If We Were Villains could be categorized into the new dark, grown-up college genre due to its main themes and graphic descriptions, so keep that in mind!

Book recommendations if you liked What if we were bad guys?

H: It’s not a book but the musical Bare (pop opera) is about students from a Catholic boarding school and they put Romeo and Juliet so there are some similarities with IWWV! Another great book to pick up if you liked IWWV is Call the hawk by Maggie Stiefvater.

M: Of course, you can also check out other popular Dark Academy “classics” at this point, such as The secret story by Donna Tartt, Vicious by VE Schwab, or Ninth House by Leigh Bardugo!

H: Now go read this dark masterpiece and let us know your thoughts and thoughts!

M: And don’t forget to prepare a few handkerchiefs before you start!

Will you be reading If we were bad guys? And if you’ve read it already, let us know who your favorite character is in the comments below!

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A Conversation Between Two Fangirls: If We Were Villains by ML Rio

Written by Maša Tome and Hannah French

Two fangirl besties chatting about all things nerdy… Yes, we did something. One thing where we sit down and chat about our favorite things and try to get you to join us in fangirling about them! Focus du jour, a book that we don’t talk about enough – but which should be – If we were bad guys by ML Rio. Read on to see us fangirl about this book and tell you why you absolutely should take it!

A brief recap of If We Were Villains:

Oliver Marks has just served ten years in prison – for a murder he may or may not have committed. On the day of his release, he is greeted by the man who put him in prison. Detective Colborne is retiring, but before he does, he wants to know what really happened ten years ago.

As one of seven young actors who study Shakespeare at an elite art school, Oliver and his friends play the same roles on and off stage: hero, villain, tyrant, temptress, ingenuous, extra. But when the cast changes and the supporting characters usurp the stars, the plays are dangerously overflowing with life and one of them is found dead. The others face their biggest acting challenge yet: convincing themselves and the police that they are blameless.

Describe If we were bad guys in 5 words!

Hannah: Mystery, drama, Shakespeare…
Maša: Murder and friends! It barely covers the complexity of this magnificent masterpiece, but it’s a start!

What do you like most about this book?

H: The characters and the friendships they share. These relationships are so complex and riddled with so much angst, jealousy, competition, pretense and love!
M: I also love the way Rio portrays that these relationships can be so toxic too. On the one hand, these characters share some lovely friendships (and love stories), but they’re so connected to each other that it sometimes overshadows everything they do for a living. It’s also an LGBTQ + book!
H: Another thing I love about this book is the concept of theater and performance! All the characters love Shakespeare and are addicted to the stage. This book really shows what games and words mean to people. It also shows the addictive nature of spotlighting and pretending to be someone else.
M: Yes, it will be a treat for anyone who enjoys Shakespeare, the theater or just dark, atmospheric and twisted stories in general!

Everything you need to know about the main characters!

H&M: We noted their official “titles” but also added our own touch!

Oliver – “The Faithful Companion”; the unconscious
James – “The Heroic Guy”; the noble
Meredith – “La femme fatale”; the heart breaker
Alexandre – “The bad guy”; the troubled teenager
Filippa – “The chameleon”; the only sane one
Richard – “The Tyrant”; the proud idiot
Eurasian Wren – “L’Ingénue”; the extra

Why should you choose If we were bad guys and what themes are covered?

M: You should definitely choose IWWV if you adore the works of Shakespeare or the dark academic genre in general! And even if you are a total beginner in academia, this book will make it easy for you!
H: This book is also about the power of words and at the center of it are all-consuming friendships. It shows how words can consume and how the character and the real person can start to get confused if you’re not careful. IWWV shows that acting can mean adopting a different character and what happens when you start acting off stage as well.
M: IWWV covers a lot of topics and a lot of them are uncomfortable and ugly truths of our world (check the trigger warnings before you start!). It deals with trauma, drug addiction, bullying and death, but it also delves into the themes of morality, good and evil, love.
H: It also touches on themes like what makes someone a bad guy and someone else a “good guy”, a hero if you will. It also asks a very tricky question: “Can you do the wrong thing for the right reasons?” “
M: Yes! One wonders if terrible things can sometimes be justified – and under what circumstances! Basically it’s a masterful story of deception, power and love and we HIGHLY recommend it!

Which makes If we were bad guys special and / or relevant today?

M: If we were bad guys is a character-driven story that departs from the tropes and leaves you guessing! It’s a story of obsession and how far we would go for love, in the meanest way possible! But not just in terms of romantic love – IWWV deals with all kinds of diverse relationships and we’re here for it!

H: This book also points out that pride and greed can influence a person’s actions and that they can ruin friendships. All of these characters want to be the leader and they all want to be the best. This competition and tension gets them all to do things they maybe shouldn’t. IWWV has a very realistic portrayal of what greed can turn someone into. Another plus is that it’s heavy Shakespeare and will make you appreciate his work (I’ve never been the biggest Shakespeare fan but after reading this book I’m in love).

See also

M: If We Were Villains could be categorized into the new dark, grown-up college genre due to its main themes and graphic descriptions, so keep that in mind!

Book recommendations if you liked What if we were bad guys?

H: It’s not a book but the musical Bare (pop opera) is about students from a Catholic boarding school and they put Romeo and Juliet so there are some similarities with IWWV! Another great book to pick up if you liked IWWV is Call the hawk by Maggie Stiefvater.

M: Of course, you can also check out other popular Dark Academy “classics” at this point, such as The secret story by Donna Tartt, Vicious by VE Schwab, or Ninth House by Leigh Bardugo!

H: Now go read this dark masterpiece and let us know your thoughts and thoughts!

M: And don’t forget to prepare a few handkerchiefs before you start!

Will you be reading If we were bad guys? And if you’ve read it already, let us know who your favorite character is in the comments below!

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What it’s like to be the adult child of an alcoholic

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Every year, for the past few years, I have texted my mother on her birthday. I know it’s really weird. Who has a mom, who’s still alive, and they don’t at least pick up the phone to call her? Now that we have so many technological options, a video chat would probably make even more sense. But my mom and I don’t have that kind of relationship.

I rarely call her because she is a alcoholic. There have been many instances where I have called her to give her a good news, an important update or just to check it out, and I could barely understand what she was saying because she was hammering her words so hard. . I decided that our phone time would be very limited in the future so I wouldn’t have to deal with it.

This type of behavior is nothing new to me. My mother has been an alcoholic for over three decades. As a child, I used to be disappointed with my mother. I wasn’t sure exactly why she rarely came when she promised me something. There were times I was waiting for her, literally looking out the window for her to appear, and she never showed up. I was too young to understand that she had an illness and that her addiction made her act in ways that she might not have had if she weren’t under the influence. All I knew was that I loved my mom more than anything. I wanted to be with her. And she didn’t seem to want me at all.

She and my dad divorced and I ended up living with my dad because she couldn’t take care of me. I left the country with my father, and soon after I left I received a letter from my mother admitting her alcohol addiction and apologizing for how it affected me and our relationship.

Although our relationship wasn’t perfect after that, when I returned to the States, at least she was sober. I thought that the older I got, and since I had my own children, it would give her the opportunity to feel the immense love that so many mothers receive from their children. My mother stayed sober for about ten years until she fell off the wagon again, just when I was pregnant with my first child.

She hasn’t been the same since.

At this point, I have no expectations as to what my mom is going to do, or how she is going to behave at all. As an adult child of an alcoholic, I understand that I cannot depend on her at all. Not for me, and certainly not for my children. All the hurt and pain that I have been through, I would never want to inflict on my children. I did a pretty good job protecting them from the way she hurts me, but there have been a few incidents that have left me angry with myself for giving my mom the benefit of the doubt.

Because my mother started while drinking again just as i got pregnant with my first child i never had that maternal support that makes things so much easier during pregnancy. She wasn’t completely gone by then, but her inconsistency ended up doing more harm than good. Once I was in the hospital with pregnancy complications. She said she was going to get me something to eat. By the time she arrived she was so drunk and acting to the point that I had to ask her to leave.

I saw my mother the day my daughter was born. She promised to come back to spend my first Mother’s Day with me since I would be in the hospital, but she never came back. I haven’t seen her for a month. A few months later, after reassuring me that she was sober, I asked her to sit with my daughter while I went to an emergency dentist appointment. When I got home, she had been drinking and calling my daughter dirty names. Even after that, I still haven’t abandoned my mother.

It was about a year later that I decided to move across the country, and my mom was in rehab. I went to visit him and took my daughter to say goodbye to her, and I was ambushed by her advisor who questioned me about lie after lie that my mother had told about me. I was furious! After everything we had been through, what she had done to me as a child and young adult, was she blaming me? It was out of the question that I would allow my child to experience this.

But to be an adult is to give a second chance. And we can all use a little grace. So I tried again. I told my mom that we should try to put the past behind us and start over. She came to California for my wedding and cried when I included her in the events. She was talking to my daughter on the phone, listening to her toddler antics for much longer than she had to. I thought my mom was back. May my children have a relationship with her that I never had.

But that damn alcohol.

You never know when to call and it will be consistent. I bought her tickets to come visit her over spring break last year, and she never showed up. I then told him that I was done and that I wasn’t trying any more. And so, instead of calling on Mother’s Day or other special occasions, I would text.

This year, I sent her a birthday text message, and her response gave me some hope. I thought about how I held my children away from their grandmother and how I let my past dictate their relationship. Instead of asking my daughter to text, I thought I would let my kids call. As soon as my mom answered the phone, I knew it was a bad idea. My daughter’s face was filled with confusion as she tried to decipher what my mother was saying. I picked up the phone, said goodbye and hung up.

To be the adult child of an alcoholic sucks. I’m used to heartache. This is what I have known for most of my life. I was over the pain of not being able to count on her like other friends relied on their mother.

Knowing that my children have a living grandmother who cannot be there for them breaks my heart. For days after that phone call, I felt like I was in mourning. The sadness just didn’t want to go away. After all the work I have done to heal the wounds of being the child of an alcoholic, I feel like they are opening up again as I think about what my children are missing.

A friend of mine suggested Al-anon, a support program for people who have been affected by someone’s drinking. I went to listen and felt a little better that I wasn’t the only one who felt the need to give it another chance, but I also wanted to wash my mother’s hands. It was helpful to know that other people face the same guilt as me. And the same sadness.

Next, I plan to speak to a therapist. I started to take note of my feelings. I spoke about it on Facebook. Just expressing my feelings about my mother helped me heal again.

I don’t really know what the future holds for my mom and her relationship with my kids and me. All I know is I have to be strong and able to be there for my children like my mom couldn’t be there for me.

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Shack Chat: What do you want for the holidays this year?

The holidays are just around the corner and the staff at Shacknews have plenty on our wish list. Before making requests to Santa Claus, we would like to post what we want most for the general public. Do we want video games? Or do we want something to help us play more video games? Do we want video games in the general neighborhood?

Let’s get in there and talk about what we want for the holidays.


Question: What do you want for the holidays this year?

Enough alcohol to last the rest of the pandemic – Ozzie Mejia, Grinch

Leave it right at my door. If I’m going to be home for the foreseeable future, then I at least want to have something to help me get through this. I have grown to appreciate home delivery services and have taken advantage of them at almost every turn throughout the pandemic. I have come to depend on it doubly, as nebulous stay-at-home orders have fallen from the leaders of Los Angeles. So you know what? If I’m going to stay home then just give a pandemic-sized supply of beer, I’ll stay socially away from everyone and wait for this to end.

A new car – Donovan Erskine, Bip beep

I mean, why not? My car is fine, but it also has over 200,000 miles and sounds like a lawn mower when the engine is running. It would relieve a lot of stress and worry to have a brand new vehicle for the handful of times I leave the house these days. Specifically, I would like a Tesla Model S. These cars look super cool, and they are electric! Cool stuff. I’ve never been a car enthusiast, but I would love to have one. Go ahead, Santa Claus.

GI Joe Aircraft Carrier USS Flagg – Blake Morse, Knows Knowing Is Only Half The Battle

This massive vehicle is essentially the holy grail of ’80s toys. When fully assembled, it is about seven feet long and packed with cool little features like elevators for figures and vehicles, as well as a working sound system. However, it wasn’t cheap when it first launched, and it’s certainly not more affordable now that time has passed. Be prepared to spend a few bucks if you want a full, fully functional setup. It’s the kind of thing any child or adult child slowly redeeming their childhood would love to see under something that their personal denomination puts on gifts this holiday season.

1 lb of weed – Chris Jarrard, Le trilles

If Santa Claus is real, he might make this horrible year a little more bearable if he dropped a pound of this good in my fireplace. I’m going to use it for chillax and listen to my Phil Collins records while sipping Capri Suns.

Quality Time With The Wife – Sam Chandler, R&R

I just want a little more time to sit down with my partner and relax. Whether we’re reading together, having tea, playing with our cats, watching TV or movies, or playing games, I just want to spend more time with her. She has been incredibly supportive and understanding during this difficult and demanding year and all I want this holiday season is to spend every waking moment with her. Heck, that’s all I want even outside of the holiday season.

Toaster oven – Bill Lavoy, GM Extraordinaire

I can’t explain why, but throughout 2020 I’ve wanted a toaster oven, and instead of getting one for myself, I keep telling people I want it as a gift. I don’t even own a toaster, but I really want a toaster oven. I don’t know where it’s going to go, but I’ll sort out the logistics later. A toaster oven seems like something that would improve my cooking, much like the traditional stovetop kettle that I added a few years ago. I spent days reading reviews to find the one with the best whistle. Come to think of it… do I have to trust someone else to buy me a toaster oven?

Getting the F *** out of the house – Josh Hawkins, Guide Editor

2020 has been tough, I’m not going to lie. We’ve all had rough times, and all I really want for the holidays is the ability to get out of this house and have some fun without having to worry about a billion stupid people doing stupid things. . It really is. That’s really all I want. Yeah, that sounds nice.

Generalized Restore Netcode – TJ Denzer, delighted to see Tekken 7 restore

Hi, it’s been a cool year for netcode restoration in the fighter community. It’s also a shame that the reason is that the pandemic has killed fighting game events and now every business that previously didn’t care about this stuff is finding out how beneficial the restore netcode can be. It shouldn’t have taken a catastrophic year for this to happen, but now that we’re here, I hope the innovation doesn’t stop.

Tekken 7 has shown us that netcode restoration is not only highly possible, but incredibly beneficial to the online life of a fighting game. Guilty Gear Strive is working feverishly to try and make this a thing someday. This must continue to be the trend. No more trash online with games like Super Smash Bros. Ultimate. It is no longer an acceptable state of affairs. Street Fighter 6? Don’t even tell me about it unless there is a flashback. The future has been shown to us. There is only one right way to go. For the future of the FGC, that the adoption of catering is an industry standard rather than a miraculous and limited occurrence.

Quality Play Time – David L. Craddock, Editor of Long Reads

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2020 has been a catastrophic year in almost every way. Dozens of great games have come out, and while I was fortunate enough to keep busy, it didn’t give me enough time to play. All the work and no play, yada-yada. Once I complete the final sprint of the year, I have two weeks of quality playtime locked in. Just me, my wife (who also loves games!) And my PS5, Switch, and gaming PC, every platform is packed with awesome experiences.

A break from my PC – Greg Burke, Head of Video

Every day I am in front of my PC for 12 or even 14 hours. I can’t wait to sit on my couch and play console games with my feet up, play with our kittens, and maybe if she’s nice I’ll hang out with my wife. I have no plans to go to my home office during the break at all.

It’s the season ! – Steve Tyminski, Contributing Editor

What do I want for the holidays? Ideally, I wish I didn’t have sore feet most of the day, but that’s unrealistic. So instead, I’m going with a new Devils hockey jersey. The league announced the retro collection for all teams and the Devils have a new red and green jersey, perfect for the holiday season. Also, if anyone wants to send me a nice gaming chair, I would take that too.


This is what we hope for this year. Hopefully none of us can find a lump of coal in our stockpile. What’s on your vacation wishlist? Join the conversation and let us know in the comments.

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Holy Pinto Presents Growing Pains on New Album, “Adult”

Holy Pinto releases their second album, Adult, Friday March 8. The sound is sure to be a hit with the indie pop world. Wellness music takes you on a journey to come out of your youth and face the situations of your youth.

The album opens with “Adult # 1” welcoming listeners for an album about growing up and aging. Although short, the lyrics stand out as the opening focuses on them with the help of the acapella voice. Single, “Daisychain”, is next with a heavy guitar sound climax. The highly relevant lyrics about a lost love are sure to keep listeners on the journey to grow old.

“Goldleaf” and “Salt” are sure to be hits with the catchy chorus and dancing pop tunes. Both songs are the ones you would blow up with your windows down on a hot summer day.

“King” begins by creating anticipation that turns into a full indie vibe. Guitar chord interludes are a great addition for the sound to change throughout the song. On the same interesting note, “Brother,” begins with a guitar build and turns into a one-minute instrumental introduction adding another point to the independent scoreboard.

A rock and soft sound is presented in “You Are My Seatbelt”. With lyrics geared towards another relationship, whether it fails or succeeds, it again harkens back to the ever-popular feeling of growing up.

The album ends with “Adult # 2”, which is another ode to aging. With the slow progression towards the strong instrumental ending, the song is quite a great ending to the album capturing the real upbeat vocalist, Aymen, set up. “The best is yet to come” is the last word you hear, offering an excellent foreshadowing of the future of Holy Pinto in music.

To celebrate the album’s release, you can see Holy Pinto at the Cactus Club in Milwaukee, WI on March 9, 2019.

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Fight the “loneliness epidemic” with a coffee and a cat

The traditional reserve is said to make it almost impossible for the British to speak to strangers in public places. However, a program, started three years ago by a young British mother struggling to cope with her sense of loneliness, is coming to a cafe near you – and the project has profound implications for young and old alike. .

Alexandra Hoskyn was 33 when she created the Chatty Coffee Program in 2016. Her son, Henry, was four months old. She felt alone, cut off from the company of adults. But as she was walking around the city center one day, an idea occurred to her.

“I was pushing a stroller alone in Oldham,” she said. While stopping at the local cafes, she was struck by the fact that so many people were sitting alone.

“I noticed older people, caregivers with their caregiver and people with babies and thought it would be good if they could meet,” she says.

The organization she has set up encourages cafes to set aside a “Chat and Chat” table where customers can sit if they are happy to chat with others. In three years it has grown to over 1,000 cafes across the UK, and after winning a major award last month, it is expected to expand further.

Chatty Café tables are identifiable by their A4 plastic table panels – like menu stands. They encourage customers to reach out to strangers, knowing they won’t be turned away. Those who want to be alone can sit at other tables.

“A lot of people are afraid to make contact without encouragement,” Ms. Hoskyn said. “They know that Brits are often reserved and can also worry that only one person at a table is waiting for someone.”

Ms Hoskyn, a part-time social worker working with adults with learning disabilities, says: “If you feel lonely then you are vulnerable to poor physical and mental health and low self-esteem. The positive impact that chatting with another person can have on a person’s mood is huge.

“This program is all about mixing everything up and providing a designated table where people can sit if they feel like company with their coffee. They might want it one day, but not the next. It becomes part of everyday cafe culture.

Ms Hoskyn’s idea has now been adopted by Costa Coffee, where 400 branches offer a table for strangers to meet. Sainsbury’s has also undertaken a pilot project; she says the store’s cafe staff have embraced the concept with great enthusiasm.

In Glasgow, city staff recruited local cafes to participate in the program – some personalized their table signs to advocate having “a little blether”. In Leeds, local library cafes have joined us. Hospital cafes across the country joined in large numbers. And the good news travels quickly: over 20 cafes have signed up in Gibraltar.

Good to talk

The UK’s International Longevity Center was established as a think tank specializing in the impact of longevity on society.

Last month, the Chatty Café program won the first Innovating for Aging award launched by ILC-UK and Just Group and a prize of £ 7,500.

Loneliness is not only a social problem, it also has profound medical implications. Described by healthcare professionals as a “silent epidemic,” increased social isolation impacts our mental health, as well as our physical health. Last year, a major study claimed that loneliness could increase risk of dementia.

The link was made in a major research project from Florida State University College of Medicine, published by the Journal of Gerontology. Based on a study of 12,000 over 50 years over a 10-year period, this is the largest project of its kind.

Angela Sutin, associate professor at FSU, says loneliness is a signal that your social needs are not being met and it makes people less likely to be physically active and more likely to smoke. Separate studies have established links between loneliness and obesity, increased blood pressure, and other health problems.

At the awards ceremony, hosted by comedian David Baddiel, it was argued that loneliness can increase the risk of dementia by 40%. Currently, the cost of treating dementia in the UK is estimated at £ 26 billion per year.

Should we be surprised that the problem of loneliness is becoming more and more general? In the online age, human contact is harder to find.

Almost a quarter of adults in the UK, 22% in the US and 9% in Japan “always or often” feel alone or socially isolated, according to an international survey by the Kaiser Family Foundation, a non-profit group. lucrative.

Costa Coffee conducted its own survey of 2,500 UK adults and found that 75% of them said they would like to have more conversations. However, 63 percent said they would hesitate to chat with someone they don’t know because of fear of rejection. Four percent said they had no face-to-face conversation.

“It is clear from our research that although we seem to talk less as a nation, there is a real desire for people to have more face-to-face conversations across the country,” said Victoria Moorhouse, head of the sustainable development at Costa Coffee. .

Cafes participating in the Chatty Café pay £ 10 per year; in return, they receive marketing material to put on a table referred to as the “discussion table”. Some cafes also provide information on their websites.

In addition to the mental health benefits, talking is also good for business on Main Street. Cafe owners told Ms Hoskyn that the program has attracted new customers. Some have already extended the option of one or two days a week to the whole week. The program makes economic and social sense – it means there are fewer tables with a client.

David Baddiel’s father has Pick’s disease, a form of dementia. At the awards ceremony, he said he often wonders why there are so few products to help people with dementia. For example, when he became a new father, he would go to stores and find aisles of baby and children’s products. Still, he couldn’t find anything for the elderly with dementia and felt it was a missed opportunity, as many elderly people had substantial wealth that could be used to improve their lives.

“Longevity is everyone’s business,” says David Sinclair, director of the International Longevity Center. “For too long UK businesses have viewed older consumers as unattractive. In a world with a growing number of older people, this is no longer sustainable. “

Take this route

The Innovating for Aging Awards, supported by Just Group, received 77 nominations from a multitude of companies using technology to improve lives later.

Walk with the path was a finalist for the Innovating for Aging award. The start-up manufactures mobility aids for people with neurological disorders, such as Parkinson’s disease or multiple sclerosis, who have become unstable with age.

Founder Lise Pape, who received an award of £ 2,500, started the business after her father was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease and suffered from a ‘stop walking’, which means that he got stuck trying to walk. The condition can bring people down.

“The impact of falls can be devastating for the person and their family,” said Ms. Pape. “This implies a reduced quality of life, social exclusion, reduced confidence when walking and a lack of independence.

“It’s a huge cost to healthcare providers around the world, with the NHS alone spending £ 2.3bn a year. Demographic changes make the need for preventive solutions even more imperative. “

Ms. Pape designed Path Finder, a device that emits a green light in front of the walker’s shoes to give wearers an automated visual cue.

His company has also produced “Path Feel,” an insole that helps wearers with neurological disorders feel the ground better by providing active sensory feedback, which in turn helps their balance. The devices are much more discreet than walkers and canes, boosting user confidence.

Walk with Path sells direct to users in the UK and to health services in Denmark and Norway. Several NHS trusts have contacted the organization, but are still assessing how much money they will save by providing Path Finder to patients.

The Path Finder device is currently undergoing clinical trials at the National Hospital for Neurology, University College London, to collect the healthcare economic data needed for sale to the NHS. Several NHS trusts are expected to adopt the device this year.

Another finalist included messoins.org, an online tool that securely collects and shares a person’s non-medical needs and preferences so that they can receive dignified and appropriate care in the hospital when they can no longer participate in these conversations.

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Japanese Self-Pleasure Aid Tenga Releases Video Chat Background Series

Now you can hide your house while broadcast your love from Japan’s most popular self-esteem device.

As online conferencing becomes more and more common in the working day from home, more and more people are using video chat backgrounds. And why not? Fall in a background of the world of Nintendo, Pokemon, or Kingdom Hearts is a fun way to share a part of your personality while hiding any discomfort visible in your home.

Today, however, we’re taking a look at a new series of video backdrops that let you share a potentially embarrassing side of who you are: your love for Tenga, the most popular masturbation aid brand in Japan.

As part of the company’s ongoing efforts to “Helping people find a little source of pleasure while dealing with the accumulated stress of” having to stay at home, Tenga offers a collection of photos, taken around its headquarters, which can be used as backgrounds for Zoom or other video chat apps. The one above is from the main office entrance, and the stupendous red kanji characters proudly state “Love and freedom” next to a giant Tenga.

Other options are a little less obvious about the Self-Insertion Self-Pleasure Device. For example. this snapshot of the wall of the employee cafeteria does not display the element itself, just its name.

And this one, from the company’s nameplate, looks entirely commercial and respectable.

“With these, you can feel like a Tenga staff member”, the company said, while also touting them as making them feel like a big player visiting Tenga’s headquarters to negotiate a trade deal. You can even use set your backdrop to reflect what you would see sitting in the Tenga conference room: an entire wall of the company’s surprisingly diverse product line.

Obviously, a certain level of discretion is recommended when using them, because although the driving force behind Tenga’s products is normal and healthy desire, it is still not something suitable for all partner groups. online discussion. Still, the option is there for times when you feel it’s appropriate, and backgrounds are available for download on Tenga. here.

Source, images: Tenga
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Adult Mom Announces ‘Driver’ + Releases New Song, “Sober”

Today, Adult Mom announced the release their Epitaph Records’ first and third studio album in total, Driver, March 5 via the label.

Driver was co-produced by Stevie Knipe and Kyle Pulley (Shamir, Diet Cigarette, Kississipi), and finds Knipe delving into the emotional space that comes just after adulthood, where adulthood collapses. Think about the bills that are piling up as you get older and move further and further away from your favorite childhood memories. The record ultimately seeks to answer the ever-lingering question of “what now?” “

Over the 10 tracks through Adult Mom’s Driver, Knipe created the soundtrack to the queer romantic comedy she’s dreamed of since 2015. The record incorporates all kinds of new sound textures for the band, from synths and shakers to 2000s-inspired guitar sounds.

In addition to the album announcement, Adult Mom has released a new single titled “Sober,” which examines how people’s perceptions change and deteriorate over time, particularly as a result of a relationship that has degenerate. The single joins the previous one “Berlin”To serve as a taste of what’s to come Driver.

Listen to “Sober” below, followed by album art and tracklist.

Masterpieces:

List of tracks:

  1. Passenger
  2. Wisconsin
  3. Breathing
  4. Berlin
  5. Sober
  6. Dancing
  7. Adam
  8. regret it
  9. Verification
  10. Gel
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Caught Between Aging Parents And Adult Children – Red Bluff Daily News

A nice new assisted living complex is under construction near my home. As beautiful as this place is, it has become a daily reminder of how difficult it is to talk to aging parents about their health and future needs.

If you’re 40 or older, you’re part of the sandwich generation, which refers to middle-aged people who feel pressured to support both aging parents and adult children. You probably fall into one of these categories:

TRADITIONAL SANDWICH

Those who are caught between the needs of aging parents, relatives or friends while supporting and meeting the demands of their own children, spouses and careers.

SANDWICH CLUB

Those in their fifties or sixties sandwiched between aging parents, adult children and grandchildren. Or, those in their 30s and 40s with young children, elderly parents and grandparents.

DOUBLE STUFFED SANDWICH

Those whose adult and post-graduate children return home to live with their parents for lack of jobs, leadership and / or money. Also known as “boomerangs”.

OPEN SANDWICH

Anyone else involved in the care of the elderly on one side and others in need of support on the other.

Of those of my husband and friends, I would estimate that at least half are caring for elderly parents or caring for adult children and grandchildren. And, in most cases, some or all of them have moved in with them.

Surveys suggest that today’s baby boomers (adults born 1946 to 1964) are likely to spend more years caring for a parent than raising, caring for and supporting themselves. children. And nowadays, parents take care of their children for at least 20 years.

In the same way that a visit to the dental hygienist can avoid a painful procedure later, a conversation with your parents about aging will be worth it to help you preserve a future that you both can manage. The longer you wait to talk to them about the future, the fewer options you’ll have and the more it can cost to provide them with the care they need.

The way you approach the subject will have a huge effect on your parents’ willingness to accept your help. Here are some guidelines to help you start this conversation:

LISTEN

Don’t miss an opportunity to talk about the future. Listen to your parents and ask questions. Avoid telling them what to do, although it may be tempting. Start the conversation sooner rather than later.

BE PATIENT

Your parents bit the collective tongue for years while they looked after you. Now it’s your turn to be patient and give them time to think about their alternatives. Important decisions will not be made over the course of a phone call.

WAIT FOR THE SILENCE

Don’t expect quick answers to your questions. It is perhaps one of the most difficult seasons of their lives. Give them time to process, reflect and meditate.

DO NOT ASSUME

Don’t make assumptions. Above all, don’t confuse indecision with lack of interest. You can be pretty sure that they’ve been thinking about it a lot longer than you have. But it’s easy to put it off when the future seems so distant.

ACQUIRE HELP

It’s okay if you don’t know what you’re doing. Your willingness to help your parents is a big step. Dare to ask for help.

TO LAUGH

Don’t lose your sense of humor. It will keep you happy and sane for years to come.

Mary invites questions, comments and advice on EverydayCheapskate.com, “Ask Mary a Question” or c / o Everyday Cheapskate, 12340 Seal Beach Blvd., Suite B-416, Seal Beach, CA 90740.

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